Most guys hopefully won’t have a similar experience to the one Lance Gross's character had in the Tyler Perry movie Addicted, when he found out his girlfriend was cheating on him and (hooked on drugs). The truth, though is that the odds of your girlfriend or wife cheating on you have increased over the years, according to an Indiana University study. In the 2011 study, 19% of women admitted to cheating compared to research showing that 10–15% of women reported being unfaithful in the 1990s.
The most common reason a woman would cheat is because she feels taken for granted, according to Charles J. Orlando, a relationship expert and bestselling author, who went undercover as a cheating husband a few years ago to find out the reasons why women cheat. So your best bet to prevent ever getting cheated on in the first place is to keep your effort high throughout the relationship instead of just when dating, notes Orlando.
Still, if you and your partner haven’t quite been in sync as of late and think something may be wrong, here are some signs that she may be cheating on you. The key word here is "may." If you can relate to a few of these, consider confronting her about it in a calm way—and definitely don't immediately accuse her. To stay in a good place: Listen without judgment
Anyone who's ever told a lie understands the risk of getting caught when people start pressing you for more details. With each added layer of falsehood, you’re that much closer to exposing yourself as a liar.
It’s also a big deal when you’re not the first or even second person that she talks to about her day. It likely means she's talking about all that to someone else. And sharing personal details of her life with this other person who truly listens and encourages her only deepens their emotional connection. When a spouse used to tell you about a co-worker or friend and then stops talking about them entirely, chances are something may be up.
Cheaters have the tendency to change physically. Love handles disappear, posture changes, makeup gets applied daily, and their muscle tone/definition returns. So, if your girlfriend who used to wear sweats and no makeup to do errands is now getting dressed up and doing her makeup before leaving the house to go to the convenience store, that might trip a few alarm bells.
Most people think a sign of cheating would be that you’re not having as much sex as you used to. But a more accurate warning sign, is that a couple is dramatically changing how they're making love.
A sudden interest in experimenting with new positions or techniques in bed, or interest in things that she wouldn’t consider before, can be a sign that she’s having sex with other partners and bringing it back into your bedroom.
When you calmly tell your partner that something feels different, and she responds in an aggressive way, it may be because she is deflecting or hiding something. In a loving relationship, your partner wants to know how you're feeling. This is part of the process of resolving what feels different or uncomfortable.
If there isn’t trust in the relationship, it won’t be able to survive or grow so the future is also on you. “The first thing to do is to stop seeking constant reassurance after you have been reassured. This puts pressure on the relationship without any benefit.
Bottom line: If she gets angry in an instant or acts overly nice, it’s a red flag.